Go to the article by Bobby Gilles. It is worth it, especially no 10: “Compare the calm, cool, collected leadership of Deborah to the dumpster fire of Samson’s leadership. Compare the emotional maturity of Abigail to Nabal in 1 Samuel 25, a stunning indictment on the “Women can’t handle their emotions” argument.” Thank you Joy LaPrade for highlighting this.
Over the years (and probably more so in the recent past), I have witnessed so many “meltdowns” by male church leaders! The premise that men are more steady than women is false. In times of crisis, women are often the stronger vessels. Being raised to work hard, being forced to advocate for yourself, and having to prove yourself at every turn develop character and resilience. I see it all over the world.
“Christian” men losing their temper, using violence as a way to control, making rash decisions, committing all kinds of abuse, and then burning out. Addiction to porn (what kind of self-control is that?). And let us not ignore the fact that the vast majority of sexual abusers in churches are men. Men cannot control their emotions better than women.
I am not saying this to demean men, just to say that if women had an equal voice in decisions and leadership, we might be better off than where we are now!
Read the article; it is really good!